We all love our friends, but sometimes they just don’t seem to understand that everyone in the world does not have as much money as them. Here are 7 ways, inspired by Financial Highway, to tell people that you can’t accept their invitation, without giving offence.
That Won’t Work For Me, So How About This Instead?
One of the reasons people can get so offended is that they think you don’t want to spend time with them, as opposed to the real reason, that you just don’t want to spend any money. If someone asks you to a pricey dinner and you can’t afford, politely decline but suggest they come to your place for coffee instead. That way, you won’t be stressing about your finances and can still enjoy their company.
I’m On A Strict Budget Right Now
It’s like dieting. Sometimes the best way to stop the endless nagging is just to be homest about it. People have all been there one time or another-where their waistline just can’t afford any cake, or their bank balance just can’t afford another night out. Your loved ones will understand- the tight times won’t last forever, but until they finish, you’re going to be living in straightened circumstances.
Sorry, I Can’t Make It To That Event
You don’t need to explain every single one of your decisions in life. A simple ‘no’ is sometimes all you need, as lots of explanations might hurt your cause, as opposed to help it. Unlike the mad rush of events in high school, you learn in adulthood that you don’t actually have to attend everything you are invited to. It was a great day when I worked that one out.
It’s Hard Finding People To Pay For These Things, Isn’t It?
I can’t say this is one that would readily find itself on my rotation, but Financial Highway suggests it’s a good way to respond to requests for donations or fundraising events. It means you can deflect the question without seeming amazingly callous. My experience of fundraising types is that this would not be enough to deflect their zeal, indeed a semi-trailer would do little to achieve that, but if it works for you, I bow to the King of Kings.
I Already Ate, But I Could Come And Hang
People invite you out because they want to see, not because they get some kind of odd thrill from seeing you with money in your hand. Acoid the expensive dinner, but turn up in time for a drink. Or make it a routine that you meet for coffee, not lunch. It means you can see people relatively inexpensively, without needing to make a huge fuss of the issue.
Why Do You Want Me To Spend Money On That
The response to the friend who wants to throw a home selling party. If they’ve asked you to spend money, but really just want a hand or a friendly face, then you can easily provide the latter without having to shell out the former. Know what your friend really needs, and try and bring that to the table.
I Would Prefer Not To
For the friend who never lets well enough alone. This one invites no discussion and brooks no argument, you would prefer not to and that is the end of that.